Put your children first
An obvious one, but arrangements for your children should of course be based on what is in their best interests. Speak with your children to see what they would like to do. Try and take everyone’s wishes into consideration when discussing Christmas holiday arrangements. Keeping the children’s welfare at the centre of your planning should make reaching satisfactory arrangements far easier.
Give yourselves plenty of time to discuss plans, and don’t leave things to the last minute! Last minute conversations with your ex-partner only increases tension and makes it less likely that you will reach an amicable compromise. The earlier you are able to co-ordinate diaries with your ex-partner, taking into consideration respective work and other commitments, the better.
Christmas is a special time for children, generating lasting memories. You should try and ensure that your children can enjoy time with both you and your ex-partner. Refusing to agree shared time or making your children feel guilty for wanting to spend time with your ex-partner may have a negative impact on them. Being flexible with your ex-partner when making arrangements may make them more likely to reciprocate with a flexible approach in the future.
Supply all the information you have about your Christmas plans to your ex-partner as soon as you can. Perhaps try to avoid firm commitments and bookings until all arrangements are agreed.
If you have any further queries, please contact our resident child arrangement expert Karol by emailing KarolK@moore-tibbits.co.uk or calling 01926 491181 for free initial advice or to arrange a consultation